How can we turn so easily from carefree to worry, with a simple small flick just like a light switch?
I saw a picture the other day shared on Facebook of a couple, it was sweet showing their love. What made me think was a comment below, “#RelationshipGoals”. I’ll be honest my first thought was sarcastic, I thought “well anyone can look happy for one picture” but then my heart thought about the young girl commenting.
She sees that and it could be lighthearted but what if it’s deeper than that? What if she’s lonely wishing she had that? She feels like she’s doing something wrong or isn’t good enough to have that? What if she feels incomplete because she is without that? Or maybe it’s that she wishes her partner would take pictures like that with her?
Now what may sound like I’m over thinking it BUT it is true to a level. Did you see your friend post a picture of a a few friends on a trip and feel a small twinge wishing you were there? Have you seen or heard things that made you feel like you needed to do more or feel bummed out about yourself?
In this digitally driven world we are able to connect to more people than ever and we can share our thoughts about every little thing. We are reminded of birthdays of the very important people we met that one time at that friend of a friend’s dinner party, thank goodness because it would be SO embarrassing if we forgot to post on their “wall”.
We can share anything and we tend to share way too much. Yet, it’s never enough. Someone is always traveling to an amazing new place, they get engaged, went to that cool concert, had a freaking adorable baby, have better gym before and after pictures, their house looks like Chip and Joanna Gaines fixed it up for them, heck their dinner plates look better than yours too!
We compare our every day Monday through Friday survival crawl to these small moments of perfection in staged lighting. Dang we’ve gotta get it together because look at that person.
The question we are scared to ask is, if they all saw the gritty truth, the worst day, the low moments, the depression, the stress, the messy other side of the room, that you forgot to paint your nails, that panic attack, that dinner came out of a box, the hurt, the longing, the moments when you came up short, when you forgot, when you messed up…..would they still be there? We are so scared to be real, to be wrong…to not be liked.
The thing is we are all a little bit broken. We have the ability to connect 24/7 but we are lonely. The connection less connecting is effecting our lives and relationships for we compare them all. Our homes, cars, bodies, friends, jobs, talents, abilities, everything.
This pursuit of perfection spins us out of balance as we chase it and it moves us farther and farther from inner contentment and self worth. When did we start trading our priceless peace, for posts and pictures? How do we find our balance between sharing and caring too much and not at all? How will we teach ourselves not to measure our worth by our digital pocket influence? What can I do to adjust and find my balance?
For those who need it.
You look good, no one saw you trip, your smile made someone’s day, you’re not alone even when the loneliness seems overwhelming, the hurt will heal, the night will end, good days will come, you are loved, you are worth it, you matter even when you feel as if you don’t, you will be found.